Definition of Marriage - on a lighter note

Marriage is spending the rest of you life with someone you want to kill and not doing it because you'd miss them.

Learned His Lesson?

After a bitter six- year battle to win a divorce from his wife, Suleyman Guresci walked away from the Turkish courts in November 1986, free at last. Undaunted by the failure of his first marriage, Guresci was eager to find a new wife. But he was not about to make the same mistake again. This time he was determined to find the right partner. He turned to a computer service to find the ideal wife. 

Of 2,000 possible candidates, the machine selected only one as the most suitable; Nesrin Caglasas, his former wife. Before remarrying Nesrin, Guresci said: “I decided to give her another try by being more tolerant toward her.”

How to Spice Up Your Marriage

Keep dating your spouse. Hire a baby sitter. Get dressed up! Make special dinner reservations. Buy her flowers. Wear his favorite perfume. Approach each "date" with your spouse with the same desire to impress that you held in your heart on your first date.

Write him love notes. Leave them in the brief case, on the mirror, or taped on the computer monitor. Please, do it the old fashion way, with pen and perfumed writing paper. Not, emails or SMS’s.

Come on, give him a back rub!

Give him love credits. Spoil him by giving him a love credit for any of his favorite activities: dinner in a particular restaurant, tickets to a favorite sporting event, etc. Be creative!

Instead of celebrating your anniversary, why not celebrating your honeymoon? Visit the place where you spent your honeymoon, even if it is for just one night. Should it not be possible for whatever reason, just book into the next best, but classy, hotel for the night!

Serve him breakfast in bed, anytime! Make it yourself and serve it with a flower and a love note!

You can never kiss him too much! Do not be content with a simple little peck on the lips. Give him at least 10 seconds of serious affection each day. Try it just before leaving for the office. You will hardly be able to wait to get home!

Buy him a romantic novel and read a chapter every night in bed!

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Never stop loving him, and tell him that you love him every day!

 

Beauty of marriage

Some beautiful thoughts on marriage . . . . .

Men and women are made for each other not only physically, but also emotionally, sexually, and psychologically. Marriage depends upon sexual difference. The union and communion that marriage calls for, which are entered into by the vows, necessarily depend on the union of one man and one woman.

Kate Winslet still believes in the “beauty” of marriage.

The 36-year-old actress — who was married to Jim Threapleton from 1998 to 2001 and director Sam Mendes for seven years from May 2003 — admits commitment can be tough but she still wants to be with someone for the rest of her life.

“I still believe in the beauty of committing yourself to another person and, at least, in the idea of marriage as an expression of that commitment,” he said.

“Living with someone will always be a challenge, but you hope to be able to find someone whom you can spend the rest of your days.”

Daniel

Self-confidence and You

Nobody can claim that he or she does not have self-confidence problems the one or the other time, whether pertaining to sex, dating, marriage, the way I look, or something else.

Generally, self-confidence issues are based on the unknown, because we really fear the unknown - when we have no idea how someone will react to the things we do, anxiety runs wild, and we are not calmed until it is over.

Know that others feel the same way. Whatever self-confidence issue might bother you, rest assured that someone else has experienced it before. Whether it is physical or psychological, other men and women have worried about the same things, which mean that you are by no means alone.

Give yourself a break. When you feel overwhelmed by any insecurity, take a step back, and evaluate the situation. Berating yourself for your lack of self-confidence will only serve to make you more anxious. Instead, come to terms with the issue and work through it.

Daniel 

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Money Matter Tips for Newly Weds

Michelle and Freddie 3 March 2012

To get a marriage off to a solid start, it is best to discuss the matter of finances or money candidly from the start. Here are some time-tested tips for the newlyweds:

1.    Communicate with each other: This is the key to a healthy financial relationship. Without open discussions, small differences over the management of the household finances and budget can turn into big issues.

2.    Respect for each other: Respect the feelings or outlook of your partner on money. Accepting different opinions and outlooks is the first step towards finding common ground.

3.    Shop together: Do not burden one partner alone with the shopping. Make it an outing and by doing this both partners will know and see the prices of commodities. Ignorance of prices and price hikes may create false expectations.

4.    Be informed: Sit down regularly and exchange facts on the household budget status and other financial issues. Jointly go through the monthly bills and review it.

5.    Work according to a budget: Together prepare a budget and treat it, as is your guide to help you achieve your financial goals. Once there is consensus over the budget, adhere to it strictly. When necessary to deviate from it, make it a joint decision.

6.    Pocket money: In addition to the normal household budgetary items (food, mortgage bonds, transport, etc.) also allow each partner the freedom of having pocket money out of the budget to spend as they wish.

7.    One step a time: Tackle one financial issue at a time. Do not try to establish a budget and then in the same breath make investment decisions all at once.

8.    Equality and diversity: Recognise the role of the breadwinners but also those who do unpaid work – a husband studying full time or a wife looking after the kids at home should feel that their contributions to the marriage per se is equal important.

Remember, money cannot buy happiness. To feel free, secure, loving and in charge requires emotional maturity and not cash in the bank.

Danie
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How To Date You Wife

The majority of men spend many hours, days, and even years to date a woman they love. During this period of courtshipping, no stone is left unturned to impress the women of their dreams!

Until they are married. Then, under normal circumstances dating and courtshipping ends there and then. There is no need to stop it. You must keep the spark in your marriage and still show your wife you love here and adore her. But, most importantly that you still care for her.

Here are some tips:

1. Surprise picnic: Many restaurants and catering businesses provide a full picnic service to clients where they provide a picnic basket with all accessories. All you have to do is to provide a blanket, find the ideal picnic spot, and bring your lovely wife. Be adventurous. Do not follow routine and go to your average picnic spot. A man was driving through this upmarket suburb when he saw this mansion with its magnificent gardens and nature surroundings. He stopped and asked permission to bring his wife there for a picnic. The owner was at first reluctant but with a little persuasion he agreed and they had the most wonderful picnic ever!

2. Break-away-weekend: This is always a favourite. Arrange the most perfect break-away-weekend ever. It must be far from the maddening crowd; only you and her. Pack everything for her, arrange a house sitter-cum-baby sitter, pack her overnight bags, and when she returns home from work on the Friday wait for her in the driveway and take her like a knight in shining armour away for the weekend.

3. Camp out in your back-yard: The same scene as the break-away weekend. Take your children to the grandparents or for a sleepover at friends. Put up your tent and arrange for everything. Lock the house for the weekend and wait for her. There in the comfort of your back-yard you can have quality time together.

These three tips can be done, say every three months. But don’t wait too long. Building your marriage and nurturing it is a daily thing. Tell her you love her every day and let it not only be words. Show her you are serious. At least every fortnight, take her out for dinner. No need to be a black-tie occasion. The more informal the more she would appreciate it. Try the fish-and-chipper on the corner – just as good! At least once a week give her flowers. No need for expensive arrangements. One flower picked in your own garden would also be more appreciated. Go out of your way and get the song “I give you a daisy a day dear” and play it to her whenever you have a quiet time together.

Some wise words: 

Listening

Listening and hearing are two different things. When a person is truly listening they not only hear the words, but they feel the emotion behind these words. True communication occurs when someone truly listens and not just hears the words.

How to enrich your marriage

A strong marriage will provide a refuge from the stresses of daily life. Here is some good tips to enrich your marriage:

      Do not keep your feelings to yourself. Say ‘I love you’, to your partner often.

      Make physical gestures part of your relationship. When you sit on the couch, for example, exchange hugs, hold hands and enjoy the closeness.

      Surprize your partner with little gifts that will convey the message ‘I was thinking of you today’.

      Regularly compliment your partner’s looks. Every woman wants to hear the magic words ‘you look beautiful’.

      Make your partner feel appreciated. Say ‘thank you’ for the little things he or she does for you.

      Carry a photograph of your partner in your wallet or purse. It will help you feel connected when you are apart.

Enjoy each other – marriage is a life-long journey!

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Have a healthier sex life

The best relationships take time, patience, and commitment. This includes your sex life with your partner.

Here are some valuable thoughts on sex:

Always make some time for intimacy. Teach your children to respect your time alone when you are in your bedroom. Install a lock on the door if needed. Frequent sex may not be absolutely essential for a healthy marriage, but emotional intimacy is.

Be realistic. Too often people think that in a good relationship sexual desire should be as strong after several years as it was at the beginning. Even among happily married couples, desire will wane occasionally. However, this need not be a problem. In fact, many happily married couples find greater emotional depth and satisfaction in sex as time goes on.

Both partners should be equal active in initiating sex.

Remember; keep all your battles out of the bedroom.

Food for thought

Happiness can be thought, sought or caught, but never bought: the best way to keep happiness is to share it.

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Love and marriage . . . . .

Many people ask the question after marriage: “What now as far as our love is concern?”

After marriagelove should still be there - be assured that love can happen any anytime. Physical attraction or change in moods need not be planned but can happen unknowingly. A hot scene on TV can turn the couple on, a silly cat fight can become a move to get close and the household work can put a foundation to build a love network.

Even after the marriage vows, love will still be  in the air, any time can be the time to make love. Plans can be changed or even get cancelled for the private time. Men tend to dress as less as possible when they are at home while women wouldn't mind shelling out money for fancy night wears.

Women try to get tips from the experienced to spice the romance between them and their husband. They try preparing delicious aphrodisiacs just to get their partner into mood. Women try to hint men by giving them a head and body massage. They wear fragrant products to set the mood for the day.

After marriage, love needs no materialistic things such as greeting cards or sweets but learning lovemaking techniques (the new positions, tricks and ideas) is what couples expect. They even gift each other lingerie, flavored condoms or even viagra to get the utmost pleasure.

The 'married' always want lovemaking to be a way to present love and not to see it as a task. As long as the couple enjoy each other, the bonding is strong and the understanding levels are also high so lovemaking is indeed the best way to express love after marriage.

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Is Lovemaking The Only Way To Show Love?

Life after marriage is a little serious as responsibilities start from the day one. During that time, couples cannot run behind the bushes and sing songs as that will not make their meal. Men need to get focus about career and women need to plan to be good homemakers. With this learning process, love is tightly wrapped in the heart as the couple feel that there is still time to share feelings.

But life is too short and love needs to be a part so what may be the best to express it other than physical intimacy?. Now, the couple are legally bond so lovemaking can be their daily routine.

With marriage both men and women are assured that they will be for each other so love can happen any anytime. Physical attraction or change in moods need not be planned but can happen unknowingly. A hot scene on TV can turn the couple on, a silly cat fight can become a move to get close and the household work can put a foundation to build a love network.

Love is in the air after marriage, any time can be the time to make love. Plans can be changed or even get cancelled for the private time. Men tend to dress as less as possible when they are at home while women wouldn't mind shelling out money for fancy night wears.

Women try to get tips from the experienced to spice the romance between them and their husband. They try preparing delicious aphrodisiacs just to get their partner into mood. Women try to hint men by giving them a head and body massage. They wear fragrant products to set the mood for the day.

After marriage, love needs no materialistic things such as greeting cards or sweets but learning lovemaking techniques (the new positions, tricks and ideas) is what couples expect. They even gift each other lingerie, flavored condoms or even viagra to get the utmost pleasure.

The 'married' always want lovemaking to be a way to present love and not to see it as a task. As long as the couple enjoy each other, the bonding is strong and the understanding levels are also high so lovemaking is indeed the best way to express love after marriage.

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6 Marriage Mistakes Women Make

Attention, married women: What you don't know about marriage may spell trouble.

For instance, if you don't speak up for what you want, your husband is flying blind -- and not likely to deliver. And the way you talk about your issues may be making matters worse. And then there's the bedroom.

Getting married is easy. Being married can be trickier. Here is some expert advice to avoid or correct six common mistakes that can cost a marriage, or at the least, weaken its foundations. Whether it's you or your spouse making these mistakes, taking positive action can make a big difference.

Some wives are too willing to give up on what they want, says Susan Heitler, PhD, a Denver-based clinical psychologist and author of www.poweroftwo.org, a marriage skills-building course.

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Five Tips for a More Sensual Marriage

While sex is an essential part of a good marriage, the art of sensuality is lost on many couples. Arousing the senses purely for the enjoyment of that stimulation, even if it doesn’t always lead to sex, keeps the senses tingling and makes the relationship more exciting.

Long, slow kisses, warm embraces, and playful moments of tickling usually come natural to people who are in love. Yet, sometimes these things get lost when life takes over, and married couples especially, must take care to keep those sparks alive.

You can also develop an array of other sensual experiences to keep things fresh and to develop a more intimate relationship. Here are some ideas:

1. Learn to give a great massage. Massage is an art and there are plenty of tantalizing techniques you can develop that will make your husband or wife feel pampered. Add scented oils, lotions, or even powder to diffuse friction while deeply massaging tight, tired muscles. Help your spouse learn to let go while you massage away the tensions of the day. A lovingly administered massage can be very healing and nurturing.

2. Touch your spouse often. Hold hands. Brush up against him. Sit close together. Gently run your fingers over her cheek or through her hair. Touch each other just because you can. Often, the most subtle touches can be the most electrifying. Your husband or wife will feel your deep affection, when you touch him or her every chance you get.

3. Serve sensual meals. Create a mixture of hot and cold, chewy and creamy, smooth and crunchy. Champagne tickling the nose then the tongue, succulent meats and cheeses, warm breads, spicy foods with great textures, and rich, decadent desserts such as fresh berries dipped in chocolate stimulate sight, taste, smell, and touch.

4. Have Special Secrets. Whisper things to each other, share secret gestures, and give each other longing looks. Come up with special words or phrases that don’t mean a thing to anyone else, but mean everything to you and your spouse. Even in a crowded room, make eye contact with your spouse and hold his or her attention until you feel like the only two people there. When you can’t be alone, a discreet wink, a whispered secret, or blowing a little kiss will keep the connection going.

5. Have fun. Life is too short to be serious all the time. It’s okay to be silly and playful. Having fun and laughing together may be the most sensual part of marriage. These things stimulate an overall sense of well-being. People who can play and laugh together feel very content with one another, so it is important to keep the fun alive in your marriage.

Sensuality helps keep a marriage warm and comfortable. It can also set the mood for more frequent and more relaxed sexual experiences. The bond that develops through sensual interactions and improved sex is important for maintaining a good marriage even through difficult times. Such a bond also creates deep intimacy, and an openness to touch, that allows each partner to share more readily and to comfort the other more easily in times of trouble.

Now that you know how easy it is to make your marriage even better, and how much fun you can have getting there, what are you waiting for?

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Listen to Your Wife

Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions. That means, opening up your ears and being perceptive to your wife’s needs.

Appreciate Your Wife

When was the last time you told your wife how much you really appreciate her and all the things she does? A woman puts out a lot more energy into the home and family affairs than the husband does. Sometimes she may feel as if she is the only one doing anything around the house and this is when she starts getting bossy and naggy with you.

I encourage you husband’s to start appreciating your wife for all that she does for you and the family. Marriage can be such a beautiful relationship when you show your love with wisdom. Stop just for a moment, and mediate on the beautiful woman you married. Be thankful that God gave her to you. Realize how blessed you are to have this woman as your wife and know that she is your right arm and sometimes your left arm too. Make your wife feel good about who she is and all that she does.

Please Your Wife Sexually

There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sex is a one sided selfish act that is mostly enjoyed by the husband. Women need a bit more pampering and nurturing in the bedroom. I mean, what does a woman get out of five minutes of copulation? Okay, so it takes a little bit more time to please your wife and you’re tired, so make love in the afternoon or early morning. You do have options. Love your wife with wisdom and start pleasing the woman you married.

Be More Helpful

Be more helpful by “asking” your wife if there is anything she needs you to do around the house, in the kitchen, or in the yard. For instance, she isn’t the only one who eats dinner you know. Maybe she would like some help chopping up vegetables, setting the table, or loading the dishwasher. She probably has mowed your yard for you, so give back in return and do some extra things for her around the house. She will be pleased that you did.

Be the Man of the House

Be her man and she’ll want to be your woman. Did you know that your wife becomes bossy and domineering because you are not listening to her? She feels unloved and unneeded by you when you take her for granted instead of appreciating all that she does for you and the family? A woman needs to be valued by her husband. This gives her more love to give to you.

If you want a humble and kind wife then don’t behave as if you are better than her. Share your feelings with your wife and get close with her. Don’t be afraid to let down your guard once in awhile. If you have emotions that are not getting met, talk to your wife about it. A wife wants to be there for her husband but if you don’t let your wife in, how can she help?

If you want a feminine, humble and kind wife, then don’t try and control her to be what you want her to be. She needs to be her own person. What you can do though, is control yourself to behave a certain way that makes your wife want to submit to your loving influence. Be a good example and she will want to surrender her love to that example. Love your wife with wisdom.

By Angie Lewis

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