Wednesday, August 15, 2018

How to deal with bullies

This is how you deal with bullies:

How to Attract, Seduce and Keep Your Man

There are three stages in any relationship:
1) Attraction
2) Seduction
3) Maintain or Abandon Ship

The attraction stage involves flirting and projecting an attractive image. We play with our hair bit more, use our eyes to attract his attention or appear mysterious and draw his attention to our legs by crossing and uncrossing them. We also take as much care as possible to appear at our best. This is the easy part.

The next stage is when we decide to take things to the next level, usually sexually. We bring out or sexiest lingerie and scent ourselves with the most seductive perfumes and body oils imaginable. From there it doesn't take much hinting to let him know that if he doesn't take you to bed soon, you may direct all that pent up passion in someone else's direction.

3) Finally there is the maintenance or abandon ship stage. This is the area where most of us get into trouble.

Here are the errors in judgment that most of us make:

1) We don't take as much care with our appearance. Think back on the beginning of your relationship. How many times did you wear sweatpants in front of him then?

Are you taking the same amount of time applying your makeup as you did back then? When was the last time you brushed your teeth or had a breath mint before you kissed him?

2) We slack on our exercise routine. When we are trying to attract the love of our lives, we exercise, eat more salads and generally are so infatuated that we forget to eat. At the last stage of a relationship, our gym membership cards seem to get lost and in its place we find Ben and Jerry's and chocolate cake.

3) We forget to keep the mystery in our relationships. Did you actually use the toilet in front of him when you were first dating? Of course not! Don't let yourself get so comfortable that you forget that bodily functions are not the high point of romance.

4) We criticize instead of admiring his best points. In the beginning he was wonderful and I am sure that you told him so. When was the last time you paid him a compliment lately?

Finding a man and seducing him is the easy part, despite our occasional slumps. It is the work that you put in to keeping the seduction, flirtation, mystery and romance that will keep him on board or send him scurrying to abandon ship.

By Caterina Christakos

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

How to Take Care of Your Hands and Feet

Chapter 1: Introduction

Hands and feet are our hard-working slaves and deserve pampering with a little extra care and attention. The skin that covers our hands and feet is much thicker than elsewhere on the body. This provides them with important protection during their demanding daily tasks, but can sometimes result in a build-up of rough, chapped skin that looks unsightly and is often painful. Our hands especially are always out on constant show and are continually exposed to the elements. Strong sunshine encourages brown ‘age’ spots on the backs of the hands; cold weather leaves them dry and chapped, while washing in soapy water strips away their natural oils, leaving them rough and wrinkled. 

Our feet come under a different kind of pressure as they carry our weight around all day, often squeezed into tightly fitted boots and shoes. During the winter months, the skin on our feet may go for months without being allowed to breathe properly, as feet are cocooned in constant layers of thick tights, woolly socks, and warm bedclothes. It is said that the expression on your face is due to the comfort of your feet and it is certainly true that corns, chilblains and bunions cause a great  deal of misery. Therefore, it is hardly surprising that pedicures have become one of the most popular beauty treatments - a small amount of time spent looking after the feet can put a smile on the face all year round. Fingernails and toenails also require regular care to keep them trim and attractive. 

Giving yourself a weekly manicure and pedicure is a simple beauty treatment that keeps nails tidy and prevents problems such as splitting, flaking and painful in-growing toenails.

Chapter 2: How to Have a Manicure at Home
You will need:

·         Nail polish remover
·         Cotton wool pads
·         Nail scissors
·         Emery board or nail file
·         Cuticle Cream (see chapter 6, par 2)
·         Rubber hoof stick
·         Orange sticks
·         Orange blossom massage cream (See chapter 7)

Regular manicures are one of the easiest beauty salon treatments to carry out at home and will make all the difference to the long-term state of our hands and mails. Aim to give the hands a weekly manicure. 


- Wash hands and nails in warm, soapy water and dry thoroughly. 

- Remove any nail polish with remover on cotton wool pads. 

- Trim long nails with nail scissors and file into a smooth oval shape, using an emery board or non-metal nail file. Avoid ‘sawing’ backwards and forwards as this weakens the nail. The best way to file the nails is in one direction only.

- After filing, rinse the fingertips in warm water and pat dry.

- Apply a small amount of Cuticle Cream around each nail and massage into the cuticle and base of the nail. Leave tor a few minutes for the cream to penetrate and soften the skin. 

- Next, take the rubber hoof stick and gently push back the cuticle from around each nail. Never force the skin back and avoid cutting or poking the cuticle as this can pierce the skin and lead to infections. When you have been around each cuticle, take an orange stick and wipe around the base of each nail to remove traces of cuticle cream. 

- Apply a generous dollop of Orange Blossom Massage Cream and work into the fingers, palms, and wrists. 

Each hand contains twenty-eight small bones and a complex network of muscles and tendons, so spend at least 10 minutes giving the hands a gentle massage. This not only release tension and loosens up stiff joints but also increases blood circulation and keeps the skin feeling supple and smooth.

Chapter 3: How to Have a Pedicure at Home
You will need:

·         Nail polish remover
·         Cotton wool pads
·         Footbath or washing-up bowl
·         Stiff nail brush
·         Soap
·         Small towel
·         Nail scissors
·         Emery board of nail file
·         Cuticle cream (see chapter 6, par 2)
·         Rubber hoof stick
·         Cuticle clippers
·         Orange blossom massage cream (see chapter 7)
·         Talcum powder

Aim to give your feet a pedicure at least once a month to keep calluses, corns, and bunions at bay.


- Begin by removing any nail polish from the toenails with remover and cotton wool pads.

- Half-fill the footbath or washing-up bowl with warm water and soak the feet for at least 5 minutes to allow the skin to warm and soften

- Gently scrub the feet and toes with a stiff nailbrush and soap.

- Dry the feet and toes thoroughly and trim long nails by cutting straight across with a small pair of nail scissors. 

- Smooth any rough edges of the nails with an emery board or non-metal nail file.

- Apply a small amount of Cuticle Cream to each toenail and massage into the cuticles. 

- Use a rubber hoof stick to gently encourage the cuticles away from the nail bed, but be careful not to jab or poke too vigorously as this can pierce the skin and lead to infections.

 Use a sharp pair of cuticle clippers to cut away any small pieces of dead cuticle, but take care not to snip any living tissue. 

- Spend the next 10 minutes massaging the feet with a generous helping of Orange Blossom Cream - you will be rewarded for your efforts afterwards when your feet feel as though they are walking on air. 

- Finely, dust in between the toes with talcum powder (you can make your own by mixing equal quantities of arrowroot and corn flour, scented with small pieces of chopped orange and lemon peel.)

Chapter 4: Seven Point Plan in Between Manicures and Pedicures

1. Always wear a pair of gloves or use a barrier cream when outside or doing chores such as gardening or the washing-up.

2. Avoid plunging the hands into too-hot or freezing – cold water as this encourages dehydration and leads to skin chapping.

3. Always use a sunblock when out in sunny weather to prevent the formation of brown ‘age’ spots on the backs of the hands.

4. Get into the habit of using a rich hand cream last thing at night.

5. Include vegetable oils in your daily diet, such as olive or sunflower oils for cooking, or food supplements such as cod liver oil or evening primrose oil to help strengthen weak, brittle nails.

6. Always trim hangnails to prevent them tearing or splitting.

7. Avoid opening the mail, cans, jars, etc. with the nails as this weakens the structure and encourages them to break off.

Chapter 5: Tips for Healthier Feet

In between pedicures you can encourage healthy feet, ankles and toes by following these six steps to healthier feet:

1. Switch heel heights during the day to give the feet and calves a break. If you wear high heels during the day, slip into a pair of pumps in the evening.

2. Invest in a corrugated foot roller to give the feet a reflexology-style workout during the day. Simply move the feet along the roller to stimulate the nerve endings on the soles of the feet.

3. Use a rich moisture cream on your feet at night and wake up to softer toes.

4. Always wear well-fitting shoes and have your feet professionally measured from time to time when choosing a new pair, in case of change.

5. Apply a daily dab of Cuticle Cream or almond oil to the toenails to keep cuticles soft and well-conditioned.

6. Always trim toenails straight across, never down at the sides, to prevent in-growing toenails.

7. Try not to wear shoes all the time, for example when you are at home. When walking barefoot your weight is evenly distributed across your whole foot and doesn't put strain on one particular part. Shoes with too high heels can cause backache, cellulite and varicose veins. The higher the heels of shoes, the more they will strain your feet. It may even result in bunions (swelling of the big toe joint).

8. Most people don't realise how strenuous their daily routines are on their feet. Our feet need pampering just as much as our hands or any other part of our bodies for that matter. Exercising your feet will give them strength for another day and relax your whole body at the same time. Do foot exercises for ten minutes every day.

A few exercises that work:

- Walk barefoot with your toes pointed inward. Rotate your ankles ten times in one direction followed by ten times in the opposite direction. This will also strengthen your ankles. 

- Lie on the floor with your legs up against a wall. Use your toes to pull your feet up as high as possible

Chapter 6: Top Three Remedies for Hands and Feet

The top three remedies for hands and feet are easy to make and are well worth including in your regular beauty routine. Not only do they make the hands and feet look more attractive, but they also help prevent more serious disorders from developing in the future. 

1. Lavender Barrier Cream

      10 g (14 oz.) beeswax pieces
      25 g (1 oz.) cocoa butter
      600 m (4 tbsp.) almond oil
      15 ml 1 (tbsp.)castor oil
      15 drops lavender essential  oil


This waterproof hand cream will protect the hands from environmental abuse and is perfect to use before chores such as gardening and washing-up. Keep a tub handy in the kitchen for regular use. Instead of using lavender essential oil, the cream may also be scented with lemon or sandalwood oils for more macho aroma.  

- Put the beeswax pieces and cocoa butter in a heatproof bowl and place in a saucepan half-filled with water. Gently heat until the beeswax and cocoa has melted together. Remove from the heat and stir in the almond oil and castor oil.

- Allow cooling and beat in the lavender. Pour the mixture into tubs of shallow screw-top jars and rub into the hands whenever a protective barrier cream is needed.

2. Cuticle Cream

      10 g (¼ oz.) beeswax pieces
      60 ml. (4 tbsp.) almond oil
      5 drops lavender essential oil
      10 drops tea tree essential oil


This nourishing cream also contains essential oils to heal minor skin irritations and the inclusion of the tea tree essential oil will help prevent common fungal nail infections.

- Put the beeswax pieces and almond oil together in a heatproof bowl and place in a saucepan half-filled with water. Gently heat until the beeswax has completely melted into the oil. Stir thoroughly, remove from the heat, and allow cooling slightly. Then stir in the essential oils.

- Pour the mixture into a small screw-top jar and use to massage daily around the nails to soften cuticles and prevent them from splitting and peeling.

3. Hot oil Smoother

      50 ml.(2 fl. oz.) almond oil
      20 ml. (4 tsp.) wheat germ oil
      10 drops lavender essential oil
      Pair of old cotton socks
      Pair of cotton gloves


This is an excellent overnight intensive treatment for re-moisturising hard skin on the hands and feet. The hot oil rapidly soaks into the upper layers of skin and is sealed in with cotton socks and gloves. This encourages our natural body heat to boost penetration of the oil even further (cotton manicure gloves are available from major department stores and some chemists).

- Warm the almond oil in a small saucepan. Add the wheat germ oil and lavender essential oil and remove from the heat.

- Apply liberally to clean feet and hands, massaging well into the skin before covering with cotton socks and gloves. Leave overnight and in the morning the skin will feel fabulously soft and smooth.

Chapter 7: Recipe for Orange Blossom Massage Cream

You will need:

      5 ml (1 tsp.) lecithin capsules
      25 ml (1 fl. oz.) rosewater
      25 ml (1 fl. oz.) almond oil
      50 ml (2 fl. oz.) olive or avocado oil
      10 g (¼ oz.) beeswax pieces
      20 drops neroli or petit grain essential oil

Pure neroli essential oil gives this cream its luxurious orange blossom scent, but less expensive alternatives include petit grain, bergamot or  ylang ylang oils. This moisturising mixture also makes a good massage balm and skin salve.


- Put the lecithin granules of the contents of the capsules to soak in the rosewater for several hours, preferably overnight. 

- Put the almond oil, olive or avocado oil, and beeswax pieces in a heatproof bowl and place in a saucepan half–filled with water.

- Gently heat until the beeswax has melted completely. Add the lecithin and rosewater, and beat vigorously before removing from the heat. Add the essential oil of your choice to fragrance the cream.

- Allow to cool slightly before pouring into a shallow tub or screw-top jar (scraping the cream from the sides of the mixing bowl before it sets).

 To use, massage liberally into rough, chapped skin on the hands, elbows, and feet.

Chapter 8: What Is Reflexology?

Give some thought on the tough role your feet have to play. It is amazing the burden they have to carry in relation to their structure. So, occasionally treat them with a nice massage.

Have you ever heard of a tired person saying, “My feet are killing me”? Many times somebody is saying this to make a point of how tired they are. But have you ever give a thought for your feet? If feet could talk, they would probably say, “My owner is killing me.”

The feet are the hardest working entities of a person’s body and by that, it is meant physical working. How many people are not for the entire working day on their feet? – think about the police officer patrolling, a schoolteacher, a prison guard also patrolling, the athlete running the Boston Marathon, etc. So give a thought to your feet also. You take care of your heart, stomach, hands, nails, etc. but what do you do for your feet?

Feet are actually fabulous. Think of their size in relation to the rest of the body and the body’s weight. But luckily, there is something to spoil your feet with to show your appreciation for all their hard work. The answer lies in reflexology. Reflexology is the science of massaging the feet.

The feet are divided into zones, which represent the entire body. Massaging the nerve endings, which are, situated at the bottom of the feet triggers off a response in the body. Thorough stimulation of all reflex areas of the feet stress and tension is reduced. Reflexology is nothing new; it is coming from ancient times when people were still going bare-feet, as shoes were not yet invented. Walking bare-feet caused the reflex areas of the feet been massaged by the uneven and rough surfaces people had to walk on.

With the coming of the new ages and the invention of shoes people realized that they were not that relaxed after a day’s work as previously the case was and that is where reflexology started. Now feet had to be massaged manually and it was realized it did work and that is where therapeutic reflexology came in.

A person skilled in applying reflexology is able to stimulate an entire foot by using special thumb, finger, and hand techniques. This specific pressure and the energy generated by the hands create a physiological response or reflex in the body, which stimulates circulation, nerve connections, and energy pathways that extend from the feet to the rest of the body. This process encourages a state of balance. Although, the aim is to treat tired feet, the entire body is actually treated. Even in their tired state, they still care for the entire body!

With reflexology, the body parts are reflected in miniature detail on the feet, with the front of the body on the soles and the back of the body on the top of the feet. The zones are as follows:

           The toes reflect the head
           The balls of the feet reflect the rib cage
           The fleshy instep of the foot reflects the soft abdomen
           The firm heel reflects the pelvic bone
           The ankle bone reflects the hip bone
           The bony ridge on the inside of the foot reflects the spine

A reflexologist is trained to massage these reflexes using various techniques.
It is actually marvellous to think that the hard working feet represent a microcosm of the entire body and that it is the gateway of treating the entire body. It is a good reason to put your best foot first!

Next time, before you accuse your feet of killing you, thank them for assisting you to keep your body healthy!
The End

Monday, August 13, 2018

Going Barefoot

The natural way

Have you ever been really tired at the end of a long day and then feeling better when removing your shoes?

Shoes trap energy around the feet and that could be one of the reasons for feeling tired.

So take your shoes off whenever you can and give your feet as much air as possible.

Walking barefoot helps tone the muscles of your feet, keeping them young and strong. An early morning barefoot walk on cool, dewy grass is refreshing and invigorating for the entire system, not just your feet. It is also believed to have a very good effect on improving eyesight.

Do walk barefoot as much as possible.

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