Communication is a two-way process, which involves talking,
listening, and understanding. To communicate effectively, we need to be open
and honest, to say clearly, what we mean, while respecting our partner’s
feelings and rights.
Communication occurs at more than one level. How our bodies
‘speak’, or the so-called body language is also very important. It seems we
tend to trust body language rather than words. Once we understand the body’s
message, we are able to interpret the way in which words are said. We listen to
whether a person’s sounds angry or sad, happy or exited, and we look to see
whether their body is relaxed, tense, or defensive. If the person’s words and
body language contradict each other, we are unable to trust their words, and
communication becomes much more difficult. Unless you and your partner
understand how each other communicate – both body language and words – you will
be unable to understand each other. Communication can get even more difficult
if we are not sure of our exact feelings and say the first thing that comes to
mind in an argument, rather than think it over.
Part of communicating is negotiating. This means giving our
point of view and listening to our partner’s point of view, coming up with all
the possible options, and then finding solutions that will satisfy both. This
can be stimulating, rewarding, and even fun. It involves thinking and listening
closely to our partners.
Good communication can help you and your partner to become
closer and build a stronger, more satisfying relationship. It is also an
essential tool for sorting out problems in your relationship.
