All of us have some pre-set expectations when we enter a
relationship. It is just human to expect any relationship to work. It is fair
to expect companionship from our partners; we expect them to be there for us,
talk to us, and listen when we talk. We expect to have fun together and
maintain the friendship we have. We want our partners to accept us for who we
are and for how we look. It is fair to expect our relationships to provide a
safe haven where we do not feel judged or rejected. It is a basic human need to
experience closeness to someone, to have a sense of belonging to someone else.
To be loved!
Unfortunately, both parties in a relationship come into a
relationship with their own set of expectations and these expectations are
mostly based on their social background and even past experiences of
relationships. It is obvious that problems and even conflict may arise when
these expectations clash.
It is therefore imperative to communicate and discuss our
expectations with our partners and to sort out which are reasonable and which are
based on personal issues. Communication can help us to compromise in order to
move forward with our relationships.
If we are not able to talk about different expectations,
resentment and tension are sure to build up which may eventual ruin a beautiful
relationship.
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