When you are creating effortless success, it’s important
that you learn to take extremely good care of yourself – physically, mentally
and spiritually – and to always put your best interests first. There is a good
reason why airlines instruct passengers who travel with small children to put
their own oxygen mask on in an emergency and only then put a mask on the child.
It may seem counter-instinctual since we are all conditioned by evolution and
culture to risk our own life to save the life of a small child. This is a good
and natural instinct as it helps to ensure the continuation of our species.
That is the bigger picture. In the smaller, more immediate picture, it is in
both your best interest and that of the child for you to put your own oxygen
mask on first. Why? Imagine that you followed your natural instinct and put the
oxygen mask on your two-year old son first before attempting to fasten your
own. Before you can attend to your mask, the lack of oxygen overcomes you and
you pass out. Now, you have no mask and your child has no one to comfort and
continue to look after him. Imagine instead, that you first put on your mask,
and then put an oxygen mask on your son. If he has passed out the oxygen will
revive him and now you are both conscious and your child has you to continue to
comfort and protect him during the emergency.
This is an extreme case example but the principle is the
same whether you are on that plane or safe in your home. Telling your child that
mommy need 20 minutes of uninterrupted quiet time to take a bubble bath is not
neglecting your child. Rather, it is practicing extreme self-care. Just as
there was a larger benefit to the child on the airplane to being second in line
for an oxygen mask (continued protection and comfort from you) there is a benefit
to your child, children, husband, wife, friends, etc. of you practicing extreme
self-care in your everyday life. That benefit is a happier, healthier, more
focused you. Rather than begrudgingly or grumpily spending time with your
family when what you really need is a half hour alone to unwind after a tough
day at work or at home, take the half hour for yourself. Read, journal, go for
a bike ride, take a relaxing bath, whatever will make you feel better. Then you
can spend time with your family in a happy and healthy mood. Your family would
rather spend one hour of joy with you feeling great than two mediocre or tense
hours with you wishing you had a moment to yourself.
You may not need quiet time every single day, or maybe you
do. Identify what you need to feel your best and then give yourself the gift of
yourself. Ask the older kids to watch the younger ones, or ask your spouse or a
neighbor to watch them all, and take a stroll after dinner. Combine your quiet
time with an easy task and take the dog with you. Enlist your family into the
process. Everyone might like a quiet hour before or after dinner or reading
time before bed. There are many ways to take extremely good care of you. Take a
whole day once a month to be alone or ten minutes every day. Whatever works for
you.
To get started, make a list of the top one to ten activities
you would like to include in your day as part of your self-care. I like to call
these your Delicious Daily Habits. Once you have your list, start to
incorporate these things into your life on a daily basis. Then sit back and see
your spirits rise.
Here are examples of some possible delicious daily habits to
kick-start your imagination. Choose from this list or invent your own unique
habits. Avoid feeling overwhelmed by starting with one self-care change each
day or week and keep building momentum until taking extremely good care of yourself
is second nature to you.
1.) Walk
2.) Journal
3.) Talk to your mom
4.) Play with your cat/dog
5.) Spend time in nature
6.) Swim, dance, move your body
7.) Sing
8.) Read a great novel.
Be creative in finding ways to make your self care a
priority. Have fun with this!
By Ruth Hegarty
Ruth Hegarty helps women entrepreneurs create confident and
effortless success. As a certified Law of Attraction Coach, Ruth teaches women
to unleash their powerful creator. She hosts the popular “The Art of Joyful
Living Radio Show.” Listen every Tuesday by visiting Art of Joyful Living .
