Looking After Your Breasts

It is essential for every woman to know how to care for her breasts because it will help ensure both their attractiveness and their health.

Breasts are highly valued as a sign of femininity. However, breasts can present an entirely different set of problems from any other part of the body, and these can include sagging chest muscles, swelling and tenderness before menstruation, difficulties arising from breast feeding — and cancer! This is why women must learn to understand and care for their breasts.

Breast care begins with exercises to strengthen the pectoral (chest) muscles which tend to become slack with age. Most keep-fit routines include some helpful exercises like swinging the arms in a circular movement. Swimming is another method. Opinion varies as to whether wearing a bra helps prevent sagging breasts: comfort should be the deciding factor. However, some women prefer to wear a bra only when breasts are swollen such as during pregnancy or lactation, or when doing energetic sports.

Breasts may feel full and cause some discomfort just before menstruation. This can often be alleviated by taking extra vitamin B and by reducing the salt intake to avoid water retention which is frequently the major cause of the swelling. 

Mothers who wish to breast feed should make preparations before the baby arrives. If your nipples are not prominent, then the month before you give birth, you should massage them between the forefinger and thumb to help them stand out more. A nightly application of lanolin cream will help to keep the breasts supple while you are doing this.

Once breast feeding begins, problems may occur. These include sore, cracked or inflamed breasts due to an infection. For sore breasts, apply lanolin after each feed and expose the nipple to the air at some time during the day. For the latter two difficulties, stop feeding on that side, express the milk by hand and see your doctor. It is still possible to continue feeding from the other breast while the sore one is treated. 

Lumps in the breast can occur because of a wide variety of reasons. Most often these occur during normal changes of the menstrual cycle or because of small cysts (fluid-filled lumps of tissue) or tumors (fibrous growths) which are harmless. Sometimes the cause is more serious, and that is why it is especially important for women to recognize any changes in their breasts by giving them frequent, thorough examinations. 

Breasts should be examined regularly each month. Women of childbearing age should carry out a check immediately after their period, preferably on the same day of the cycle every month.

Undress to the waist and sit or stand in front of a mirror. Look first for any changes in the size, shape or texture. Also check the nipples to see if there are any obvious changes.

Then lie down, raise one arm behind your head and feel the breast of that side with the other hand; use the flat of your hand, not your fingertips. Gradually slide the hand around and over the breast area, moving towards the centre of the breast and eventually to the nipple. Look out for any thickening or lumps; nipple changes such as drawing in, sensitivity or discharge; pain and discomfort. Once you finish with the first breast, examine the other in the same way. 

If you detect any changes, see your doctor immediately for a more thorough examination. Often there is nothing to worry about, but if there is breast cancer, early detection can bring successful results. For this reason breast care ultimately means that you are caring for your life.

What is Sexual Therapy?

A fulfilling sexual relationship is a great pleasure. But, if serious problems occur, then sexual therapy may be the answer.

It is a fact that when problems occur in their love-making, many couples are unable to talk about it from fear of embarrassment. Subsequently, it can place great and unnecessary strain on any relationship. 

Sexual therapy provides the opportunity for partners to talk freely with each other about their sex life and problems experiencing. This is often easier to do with the help of a neutral third party. Once communication has been established, the couple will have a foundation on which to build a new sexual understanding.

Sexual therapy can also be educative. For although there is a climate of openness about sex, there is still a great deal of misinformation and ignorance about it. A professional counselor can provide basic information and correct any misconceptions couples have.

The counselor can also teach couples a whole new range of techniques to correct specific problems such as premature ejaculation, impotence, frigidity or inability to achieve orgasm. Many of these are based on the system of sensate focus or pleasuring techniques in which one partner learns how to help the other gradually achieve enjoyment and satisfaction, first by gently caressing each other’s bodies, then by genital stimulation and finally through intercourse.

But, although there can be no substitute for expert help with persistent sexual problems, couples can overcome many temporary difficulties by themselves. For instance for the loss of desire both partners should try to re-establish communication both in bed and outside it. They should try to alter their lovemaking routine and give frequent reassurance that their lovemaking is pleasurable and enjoyable.

Love Will Stand the Test of Time

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others......, including Love. 

One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island until the last possible moment. 

When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Richness, can I come with you on your boat?" 

Richness answered, "I'm sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you." 

Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please."

 I can't help you", Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat." 

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, "Sadness, please let me go with you." 

Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now." 

Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me with you." 

But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him. 

Love began to cry. Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. 

Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was it that helped me?" "It was Time", Knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when no one else would?" Love asked. 

Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, “Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

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How to be a Sensual Woman

Use music: Music is one of the best ways for changing your state and influencing your mood. Listen to music that makes you feel grateful, soft, peaceful, happy, serene, joyful, and free. You can even dance to it in your own home.

Accentuate the attributes you have that are the opposite of a man’s: It’s in the way you sit, the way you talk, the words you use, how you use your hands, how you smile, how you touch others, how you greet people (words and the physical aspects). A lot of women stand and walk like men, drink like a man would, unknowingly. They stand with their hands on their hips the way a man would do it, and sway their arms and legs in the way that a strong and powerful man would do.

Work-out on accentuating and improving every feminine aspect of your body: This includes the buttocks, the legs, the tummy, and the breasts (weights to help the breasts defy gravity.) Do smaller weights with more repetitions that keep your arms toned, rather than strong looking.

Sensual women are delicate: Any jewellery that is overly harsh starts to take away from the woman and draw attention to fashion.

Men go crazy over a woman who can give them a genuine smile: It does not matter what her physical attributes are, if you give a man a genuine, happy smile and look him in the eye – he is going to be profoundly affected. Ask any man who is in touch with his masculinity whether a smile is extremely important in a woman and he will say yes.

Appreciate men for being men: Always show appreciation for a masculine man.

Five Kid's Jokes

To be a kid is certainly the best time of your life. It is especially the innocence of a child that is the source of many kids' jokes. Here are my five favorites.

1. Count vs. Talk

Sitting opposite a little girl in the train, a man asks her, "You are so cute. How old are you?"

She holds up four fingers. 

The man repeats his question and again she holds up four fingers.

"How many is that," he asks, "can't you talk?"

"Yes I can. Can't you count?"

2. Emptiness 

Six-year old Mary comes home from school complaining that she has stomach ache.

Her mother tells her that it is because her stomach is empty but she will feel better once she has something in it.

She gives Mary a healthy snack and some juice and sure enough, she feels better!

Later on, during the afternoon, their Reverend drops in for a visit and while they are talking, he tells her mother that he had a headache all day.

Then Mary pipes in, "It is because your head is empty. You'd feel better if you had something in it."

3. Must I Eat Spinach?

A five-year old girl is refusing to eat her spinach.

Her mother says, "Eat up your spinach darling, and you will grow up to be wise and beautiful."

The little girl thinks about this for a while, looks her mother up and down and then innocently asks, "Didn't they have spinach when you were young, mother?"

4. Not Now, Please!

A woman is trying to get the last bit of tomato sauce out of the bottle when the phone rings. Her six-year old daughter answers the phone, "Oh, hello Reverend. Mommy can't come to the phone right now, she's hitting the bottle," and she puts the phone down!

5. Tooth Fairy

After losing another tooth, Jimmy became more curious about the mysterious tooth fairy.

Finally deriving a conclusion, he came right out and asked his mother, "Mom, are you the tooth fairy?"

Assuming he was old enough to hear the truth, she replied, "Yes Jimmy, I am."

Jimmy seemed to take this news quite well.

However, as he headed for the door, he slowly turned back toward his mother with a curious look on his face and said, "Wait a minute mom. How do you get into the other kids' houses?"