Monday, December 11, 2017
The Freelancer: Opinion: Same Sex Marriages
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Thursday, December 7, 2017
Woman to Woman: All about Mini Skirts
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Woman to Woman: Lovemaking to show love?
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Wednesday, December 6, 2017
Woman to Woman: Physical Problems Men Experience With Sex
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Friday, December 1, 2017
Female Sexuality: Physical Problems for Women
Many women experience sexual problems, particularly
with orgasm. A woman may be unable to move from the plateau phase into orgasm,
which may be very frustrating. She may be able to climax easily from
masturbation, but does not do so because of intercourse.
This is now thought to be perfectly normal, and may
in fact apply to a Many women experience sexual problems, particularly
with orgasm. A woman may be unable to move from the plateau phase into orgasm,
which may be very frustrating. She may be able to climax easily from
masturbation, but does not do so because of intercourse.
This is now thought to be perfectly normal, and may
in fact apply to a sizeable proportion (a third or more) of all women. Problems
with orgasm when with a partner can sometimes be because the women or the partner
does not know how best she can be sexually stimulated to the point of climax,
and a straightforward sex manual can usually help the couple out of this
problem. However, there are a number of physical factors that can lead to
sexual problems, and these could be considered before a couple goes on to seek
psychological help with any sexual difficulty.
Libido is the
interest in or our need for sex, so it is obviously a prerequisite of enjoyable
sexual activity. However, there are a number of simple problems that can lead
to a decrease in libido, and these are often easily rectified.
Many women report that they have little interest in
sex immediately after the birth of a child. This may be a result of the change
in hormone levels during and after pregnancy, but it may also be caused simply
by physical tiredness.
The Pill can also reduce libido. This is a
relatively uncommon effect, and may be easily solved by a change of Pill, of
trying a different kind of contraceptive. Once again, it is they change in
hormone levels that is said to be responsible.
The menstrual cycle can be accompanied by changes in
the level of sexual interest. This should not present a problem once the woman
and her partner have understood and accepted these ebbs and flows and their
cyclical changes. A small minority of women, however, will experience loss of
libido because of hormone deficiency or imbalance that is quite independent of
the menstrual cycle, and this needs treatment.
Physical difficulties with arousal and intercourse
can also occur because of pregnancy and childbirth. The vagina may be very
tender after giving birth, and intercourse should not be attempted until all
stiches have healed completely.
Once vaginal soreness has disappeared, (this may
take three weeks or more) intercourse can take place as usual.
Painful intercourse needs medical investigation and
treatment, as it may indicate gynaecological problems, such a cysts on the
ovaries or an infection inside the uterus. proportion (a third or more) of all women. Problems
with orgasm when with a partner can sometimes be because the women or the partner
does not know how best she can be sexually stimulated to the point of climax,
and a straightforward sex manual can usually help the couple out of this
problem. However, there are a number of physical factors that can lead to
sexual problems, and these could be considered before a couple goes on to seek
psychological help with any sexual difficulty.
Libido is the
interest in or our need for sex, so it is obviously a prerequisite of enjoyable
sexual activity. However, there are a number of simple problems that can lead
to a decrease in libido, and these are often easily rectified.
Many women report that they have little interest in
sex immediately after the birth of a child. This may be a result of the change
in hormone levels during and after pregnancy, but it may also be caused simply
by physical tiredness.
The Pill can also reduce libido. This is a
relatively uncommon effect, and may be easily solved by a change of Pill, of
trying a different kind of contraceptive. Once again, it is they change in
hormone levels that is said to be responsible.
The menstrual cycle can be accompanied by changes in
the level of sexual interest. This should not present a problem once the woman
and her partner have understood and accepted these ebbs and flows and their
cyclical changes. A small minority of women, however, will experience loss of
libido because of hormone deficiency or imbalance that is quite independent of
the menstrual cycle, and this needs treatment.
Physical difficulties with arousal and intercourse
can also occur because of pregnancy and childbirth. The vagina may be very
tender after giving birth, and intercourse should not be attempted until all
stitches have healed completely.
Once vaginal soreness has disappeared, (this may
take three weeks or more) intercourse can take place as usual.
Painful intercourse needs medical investigation and
treatment, as it may indicate gynecological problems, such a cysts on the
ovaries or an infection inside the uterus.
Thursday, November 30, 2017
Human Sexuality: The Male Orgasmic Cycle
The male orgasmic cycle goes through exactly the
same sequence: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Moreover, it is
equally complex.
The excitement phase begins as a response to a
sexual thought or feeling, or to physical stimulation. The penis responds
almost immediately, and becomes erect. Blood
fills the spaces (corpora cavernosa) within the flaccid (soft) penis, so that
it can enlarge to six inches or more in length when erect. Breathing deepens,
the pulse rate increases and the body is more sensitive.
The plateau phase follows, and the penis is now
fully erect. It may have darkened in colour, and a drop of liquid may appear at
the entrance to the urethra. This is seminal fluid, and it may contain a small
amount of sperm.
The testicles increase in size by as much as 50 per
cent, rising up towards the body. And the genital area increases in sensitivity
as orgasm is approached.
Orgasm is made up of two stages, but these are
linked in such a way that it is impossible to have the first without the
second. First sperm travel out of the testicles up the vas deferens (seminal
duct) to the seminal vesicles. These vesicles produce semen, which is mixed
with the sperm, and is then ready for ejaculation. About four seconds later the
fluid is pushed up into and along the urethra, a result of a series of
contractions made by the prostate gland and the urethral muscles. The semen is
then ejaculated out of the urethra. This is an extremely exciting
sensation.
The resolution phase sees that penis returning to a
non-aroused state, and loosing the erection. The physical tension, which has
accompanied arousal, now disappears, and this man may feel very relaxed and
sleepy.
Human Sexuality: The Female Orgasmic Cycle
Orgasm is a simple reflex response to sexual stimulation,
and can occur as the result of a variety of sexual stimuli. The physical cycle
of arousal, however, is always exactly the same. Though intensity of the
experience may vary from woman to woman, and from time to time, and depend on
the source of stimulation. The Americana sexologists Masters and Johnson have
identified four phases of the orgasmic cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm and
resolution.
The excitement phase is brought about by sexual
thoughts, emotional closeness and physical attraction. The body immediately
reacts with an increase in general sensitivity and response to caresses.
The sexual organs become filled with blood, so that
they swell both internally and externally. The vagina expands in length and
width and the vulva swells a little. Both the clitoris and labia minora (inner
lips of the vulva) fill with blood and may become darker in color. The vagina
begins to lubricate itself in readiness for sexual contact.
The plateau phase follows immediately. The sexual
organs become extremely sensitive, responding to the caresses of lovemaking.
The vagina expands to become about two inches longer than in the non-aroused
state. It is at this point that intercourse may be taking place, and sensation
by the narrowing of the outer third of the vagina, making it grips the penis
more easily. Lubrication of the vagina continues, and all the muscles around
the sexual organs become tense in a very pleasurable way. The breasts may swell
and the nipples become erect, especially if they are touched. Breathing is deep,
and there may be a light rash over the upper parts of the body.
The clitoris, which is the most sensitive of the
female sexual organs and where all orgasms begin, is now fully erect. Just before
orgasm, it pulls itself back inside the clitoral hood.
Orgasm may now occur. There will be a rush of
extremely pleasurable sensation beginning at the clitoris and moving outwards
into the whole body. The muscles surrounding the vulva, vagina and anus now go
into a series of spontaneous rhythmic contractions, which are delightful
indeed.
The resolution phase then begins immediately after
orgasm. In it, the sexual organs return to a non-aroused state. The volume of blood, which has engorged the
sexual organs slowly, drains away back into the body. Sexual interest may be
aroused again almost immediately, and one or more orgasmic cycles will
recommence.
The Role Sex Plays In Our Lives
From the first yearnings of adolescence, sex plays a
major role in our lives - indeed, it is one of our strongest drives. However, for
some, what should be a rich source of pleasure can cause great unhappiness.
Sex is a fundamental driving force of human life.
Even so, the complex relationships between the biological need to reproduce,
cultural influences, love, affection, and the sex drive itself are still not
fully understood. Much of what we know about human sexuality has only been
researched and written about the past century, and there is still great
controversy about many of its aspects.
As our society has developed, much of what was once
considered taboo is now part of normal sexual behavior and can be discussed
freely. In the past, a common premise was that women were interested in sex
only for the sake of fulfilling that maternal instinct of pleasing their
partners. Nowadays, however, it has become clear that women have as powerful a
need for sexual satisfaction and fulfillment as men. Men used to be seen a less
emotional and sensitive, wanting sex
only to gratify some basic animal urge, but we now know that emotional
expression in sexual activity is equally important to men and women.
Our first conscious expression of interest in sex
may come with the question ‘where do babies come from?’, but in fact, we have
been sexual animals since birth. We enjoy and are aware of a variety of
physical sensations, many of which represent the warmth and comfort of
closeness with another person. We get sensual pleasure from our bodies long
before we are aware of ourselves as sexual people, or what sexual pleasure
means in adult society.
Sexual interest in other people may not arise until
adolescence begins, although it may happen considerably earlier. However,
surveys suggest that about 50 present of young people are sexually experienced
by the time they have reached the age of 18.
What attracts people sexually to each other? The
answer to this question can be split to cover three broad areas: physical
factors, psychological factors and social influences.
On a physiological level, a lot depends on what a
prospective partner looks like, not simply in the sense of physical appearance,
but more in terms of whether he or she looks ‘interested’ or ‘available’. It has been suggested that if the pupils of
the eyes of someone you are looking at dilate as you speak to him or her, this
signifies attraction, or at least interest. Smell also plays a part although it
may be heavily disguised or register only on the unconscious level. Like all animals,
humans produce strong scents called pheromones, which are a powerful influence
on sexual attraction.
On the psychological level, it is true to say that,
everybody judges potential sexual partners on a wide range of factors,
including likeness or dissimilarity to mother or father. For instance, a boy
who has had a good relationship with his mother may be attracted to girls who
are like her.
Social influences are very important. We are
constantly assaulted with images of what the ideal sex partner ought to look,
act and live like; and there is little doubt that these things greatly
influence our preference.
These aspects of sexuality have a great influence
throughout adult life, and are central to the creation of any fulfilling and
satisfying sexual relationship.
Tuesday, October 3, 2017
SOFTLY WHISPERING I LOVE YOU
Softly Whispering I Love You by The English Congregation - 1972
Softly, whispering I love you,
echoes of your voice are calling still
through my dreams,
softening the chill of the breeze.
Through my window,
I can see the moon glow
painting silver shadows on a rose-colored
land;
A world that we walk hand in hand
in a day of gold
colored by the glow of new love.
Oh, Woman, I can feel your warm face ever
close to my lips
and the scent of you invades the cool
evening air.
I can close my eyes and you´re there in my
arms still
and I know your soft kiss,
turning into music every beat of my heart,
When I hold you close to my heart
and I hear your voice
whispering I love you.
Monday, October 2, 2017
How seduce your man with lingerie
Lingerie is important
when it comes to turning on a man. Lingerie
should always be so that it hugs your body and helps to bring about your
beautiful curves.
Make sure that you
pick good quality lingerie that has good fabric. Go for materials like soft
cotton, silk and satin. And remember, lace lingerie is top of the list - it makes
men go weak in the knees!
Lingerie alone won’t seduce your man - complement
your lingerie with make-up which is both, sexy and not over-done. Keep it
simple yet stylish. You can also set the room on fire, if you set your hair
giving yourself a mind-blowing hairstyle.
Sexy lingerie can help enhance your lovemaking life. Get a
tanned skin so that your body will look radiant in your lingerie.
Sexy lingerie will make your night wild and will melt your
partner but remember, body language will either seal the deal or blow a
beautiful evening – be sexually radiant and be positive and inviting!
Saturday, July 15, 2017
My Best Childhood Aromas
For me special aromas associated with my childhood bring
back fond memories. Here are my 10 best aromas.
I grew up in a happy family environment and with this happy
childhood I associate aromas bringing back fond memories. There are too many of
them but the 10 best aromas are:
1. Pot-roast in the oven:
My mother was an excellent cook and in an era when nobody was actually
concerned about high levels of cholesterol she spoiled us on Sundays with her
best pot-roast. Early in the morning she would prepare all ingredients, put it
in the oven at low temperature and boy, when we returned from church the house
was filled with the aroma of slow-baking pot-roast. Rest assured, the taste of that pot-roast was
just as good as the smell thereof.
2. Fresh-cut grass:
My father taught us from a very young age to attend to our garden
ourselves and in that time all houses had big yards with big gardens. Every
Saturday was garden day and I had to mow the lawn and the smell of fresh-cut
grass was heavenly. It still reminds me of our bondage with earth.
3. Jeyes Fluid: My
father believed that once a week all drains had to be disinfected, the court
yard had to be washed and the dog kennels had to be cleaned. For this purpose
he only believed in Jeyes Fluid. The smell lingered on for days and the smell
always reminded me of cleanliness. Fifty
years later, I still follow the same routine as my father and I still use Jeyes
Fluid.
4. Wicks bubble-gum:
My childhood was during the late fifties, early sixties when money was
scarce and we had to rely on one penny a week as pocket money. For that one
penny, we could buy 4 pieces of wicks bubble-gum. The secret of this brand of
bubble-gum was that the flavor lasted for days and the aroma of the bubble-gum
was heavenly. I remember sitting in church when suddenly the smell would reach
you from somewhere in church and you knew someone of your own age was secretly
chewing the bubble-gum – unfortunately, the smell could not keep it a secret.
5. Dettol: My mother
only believed in Dettol as an antiseptic ointment. And believe me; she used
bottles and bottles of it. We were outdoor children, not a day went by that
bruises, and nicks had to be treated with Dettol. Dettol is even today part of
my medicine chest and a spoonful in a hot bath is like aromatherapy for my!
6. Roasted peanuts: Once a year one of the big circus
companies would visit our little town and you did not miss it for a thing on
earth. With money a bit scarce, the only
thing my father could afford for snacks during the show was a packet of freshly
roasted peanuts in their shells. For that odd ninety minutes the show was on I
indulged myself in the aroma and taste of roasted peanuts.
7. Candy floss: During church and school bazaars there was
always a machine making candy floss. In spite of all the aromas of food and
other edibles competing for your attention, candy floss was always the winner
and whilst it was melting in your mouth the aroma itself engulfed you.
8. Vicks vapour rub: This was one of the musts for my
mother’s medicine chest and she believed in it. We as children loved it for its
beautiful aroma and warmness it created.
9. Wintergreen muscle ointment: My father was a very active man and
after a hard day’s work in the garden or his chicken coop or his garage he took
a hot bath and afterwards he rubbed in wintergreen. I loved to sit in his arms
in the evenings listening to the radio programs and just took in that heavenly
smell of wintergreen. I always associated it with a macho-man because my father
only used it after a man’s work!
10. The smell of a puppy: My father lived near the earth and
he tried to bring us as family nearer to earth and therefore a dog was always a
must in our house. Whenever we received a new puppy, I loved to cuddle it for
the smell only a puppy could have.
All these 10 best childhood aromas of mine are still part of
my life. Yes, believe it or not, even the occasional candy floss and roasted
peanuts I buy when there is a church bazaar or when we visit the specialized
candy shops in the malls.
Danie
Monday, July 10, 2017
Saturday, July 8, 2017
What You Should Know About Vitamins
A well-balanced diet is supposed to contain all the
necessary vitamins in sufficient quantities. However, this is not always
possible. For example, when you are suffering from certain illnesses, are on a
restricted diet, are pregnant, or breast feeding, extra vitamins may be
recommended by your doctor. But remember, under normal circumstances extra
vitamins are unnecessary and can even be harmful, leading to poisonous
overdoses called – hyper-vitaminosis!
The Role of Vitamins
Vitamin A is necessary for healthy skin, bones, and
eyes. Try not to take vitamin A
supplements as an excess can cause fragile bones, liver and spleen enlargement
and loss of appetite and possibly even hair.
The B vitamins affect blood, skin, nerves and growth, and
the way your body uses foods. It will do no harm to take brewer’s yeast, a rich
source of several B vitamins, for extra energy. The benefit is that the body
quickly excretes any excess vitamin B. Therefore, the body set the balance
automatically.
Any diet should
contain sufficient daily amounts of vitamin C-rich foods, as the body cannot
store vitamin C, and it is easily destroyed by time, cooking and by cigarette
smoking.
Vitamin D is necessary for strong bones and teeth. It is
found mainly in fish liver oils, egg yolk, liver, fatty sea-fish and milk.
Supplements should be avoided as overdosing can cause vomiting, headaches,
weight loss and calcium deposits in kidneys and arteries.
Vitamin E occurs in many foods especially in oils of wheat
germ, cottonseed, and corn, and in oatmeal, margarine, eggs, meat, butter, and
peas. Vitamin E occurs in many foods especially in oils of wheat germ,
cottonseed, and corn, and in oatmeal, margarine, eggs, meat, butter, and peas.
Vitamin K helps prevent excessive bleeding. Ample quantities
can be obtained by eating pig’s liver, green leafy vegetables, eggs and milk;
supplements are largely unnecessary as the body makes up for any shortage by
manufacturing it in the intestines.
If you are suffering from vitamin deficiency, you should
consult your doctor.
Tuesday, July 4, 2017
Steve Harvey and the Gentlemen's Club!
The following is one of those heart-warming stories and I want to share it with South Africans because, maybe, just maybe, we may need this also in our schools, but not only in schools, but even at our homes and in Spur Restaurants! And maybe, just maybe people like Judge Mabel Jansen won't be in trouble!!
A group of Memminger Elementary students and their teachers
were featured on the Steve Harvey Show
(aired in SA on 3 August 2017) to talk about "The Gentlemen's Club"
and how it's changing their approach in the classroom.
Fourth grade teacher Kenneth Joyner and Raymond Nelson with
the Communities in Schools program work at Memminger Elementary, a predominantly
black school in Charleston.
Memminger is a Title One school and Nelson and Joyner say
there has always been a discipline problem, especially among boys, who go to
Memminger and other middle and high schools in that part of the city.
Wanting to change that, the two men started "The
Gentlemen's Club" and offered the school's boys a chance to learn what it
means to be a gentleman.
"Our young boys were having a lot of problems with
discipline; they were having a lot of problems with respect, and really self-esteem.
So they had no value system. So we say that and said, 'We got to do something
about this,'" Joyner said.
Every Wednesday they meet in their best clothes, many
capping off a clean, pressed shirt and pants with a colorful bowtie, where
Nelson and Joyner teach the boys how to look and feel good, how to be
respectful to each other, their classmates, and teachers.
The result has been significant not only in their personal
lives but also in the classroom, the boys told Harvey during the show.
"It's helped me become a gentleman, and later it life
it helped me become a man," said Devon, one of the members of the club.
"Well, being in The Gentlemen's Club it's helped me
learn to be more like a gentleman, not just by the way you dress but by the way
you act," said Amari, another of the club's young members.
Harvey asked the boys what they thought of girls and three
hands shot into the air to laughs from the audience.
They boys said girls notice when they dress up and they get
comments on their style and manners regularly.
"It's just a wonderful feeling of having our boys
walking around, doing what they're supposed to do, and feeling like they can be
young gentlemen in school and outside school," Nelson said.
For their efforts to become gentlemen, Harvey told the boys
he was sending the entire club to Carowinds just outside Charlotte, North
Carolina.
Saturday, June 17, 2017
Herbs and Spices
In almost all households we use herbs and spices everyday in preparing our food or even for medicinal purposes.
Ever though about what the difference is between herbs and spices?
It’s simple really.
Herbs come from the leaves of plants while spices come from the stems, seeds, roots, and bark. Interesting, some plants are used as both herbs and spices, for instance, the leaves of the coriander plant are used as a herb and the seeds as a spice.
According to a research done by the California University of Ayurveda, coriander seeds are quite effective in curing different skin ailments like eczema, itchy skin, rashes and inflammation as they have antiseptic properties. They are known to cure mouth ulcers and sores as well. The seeds contain linoleic acid that also has pain relieving properties to diminish irritation.
Whether the recipe calls for herbs or spices; use these palate-pleasing plants in your everyday cooking!
Thursday, June 15, 2017
Saturday, June 3, 2017
How small things can make a big difference to your day
It is the small things that matter, that can change the
world. Here are 20 random small things that that can make the difference to
your day:
1. Treat yourself with breakfast in bed. Make it yourself and
then curl back into bed and enjoy it!
2. Cuddle someone in bed in the morning. The best is to
cuddle someone you love but your pillow will do when you are alone. Sometimes
it just feels good to hold someone or something in your arms.
3. Give a smile to a stranger; and you may get one back.
4. Watching children playing carefree and laughing is a
reminder to be playful and joyful. Pass a park or a playground on the way home.
5. Watch out for a small gesture of kindness from someone
who loves you. The cup of tea made by your husband — now that is love!
6. Blast your soul with soothing music, when you want it.
7. Have a picnic unexpectedly. Nothing invigorates a day
like the feeling of sunlight on your face.
8. Five minutes of deep breathing.
9. Give someone an uncomfortably long hug today!
10. A small victory. Can you change that light bulb on your
own?
11. A small change to your routine to make your day feel
exciting.
12. Create an opportunity to be creative. Start a journal or
a scrapbook, or get creative on a routine task at work to make it more
exciting.
13. The moment after the rain stops. Everything smells
clean, fresh, and revitalized.
14. A deep stretch. The benefits of loosening your muscles
exceed enhanced relaxation.
15. A beautiful sunset or sunrise. Nothing is more
inspirational that tuning into nature’s majesty.
16. Playing a game you loved as a child. Play hide-and-seek
with a friend during teatime at work.
17. An extra half-hour of sleep. Hit the sack a little
earlier one night and see how this changes your day.
18. A thoughtful question from a friend. When she asks,
“What’s your favourite childhood memory?” she is trying to learn what makes you
happy. How beautiful that she cares to know.
19. Fresh, organic food. Organic food has higher nutrient
levels and lower pesticide residues—and it often tastes better than non-organic
food.
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