Sensual is just what it means – to be of the senses. It is
the senses being used to give pleasure and it is the sensation you feel each
time your senses become aroused by pleasure. It is all about the pleasure to smell
the one you love, the pleasure your fingers feel when they touch or caress your
lover, the pleasure your lips taste when you kiss him and the pleasure your
ears feel when you hear his voice.
A person’s senses become intensely sensual when you feel the
pleasures from deep within you. It is a tingling feeling that warms your entire
body and soul. It arouses and excites you from the tip of your head to the
soles of your feet. It is soft, gentle, and alluring. It is all power. It is
mesmerizing and soothing. It is seductive and erotic. It is sincere. In
essence, sensuality is the gentle persuasive manner in which to achieve the
impossible!
Is it not true that a sensual massage is a wonderful way to
connect and arouse the senses? To touch, hold and caressing one another brings
you closer to your lover and it gives a sense of intimacy.
This is what female sensuality is all about. It is
fundamentally the capability to achieve the result you want by using gentle
sensual touch, soft-spoken words, humour, and subtle manipulation to your
advantage. You will not achieve anything if you lash out, tell him he is crazy,
refuse to reason with him, treat him with disdain, or tell him that he has it
all wrong.
To be that special sensual woman, you have to decide that
you want to be sensual and fully understand what it can do for you. You have to
think sensually in almost everything you do and say. In other words, it must
become an automatic way of thinking and feeling.
Learn to love yourself. Remember that you cannot love others
if you do not love yourself. Recognise your capabilities and discover your
uniqueness. Then you must accept who and what you are. Keep your head held high
and your posture upright, and keep your head intact! Believe in yourself. You
must have a positive healthy attitude that generates growth and let go of the
negative ones that inhibit progress. You can’t be sensual if you hate the way
you look: believe that you’re useless, stupid or foolish; believe that you are
dowdy or a frump; unhappy with who you are; act in a crude and overbearing
fashion; hate the world and the people in it; act rough and loud; harbour
resentment; have a bitter heart and a twisted mind; or complain continuously
about everything.
Be gentle with others, be gentle in your manner, be gentle
when you speak, be gentle in everything you say and do instead of acting
instinctively by being on the defensive all the time. This way you will get
everyone to see your point of view and they will succumb to you, and not you to
them. You have to slow down. Stop doing everything in a hurry then you will not
break so many nails, bump your body against hard objects, drop things, and
break things that could cost you. By becoming sensual, you will gently persuade
your lover to say and do things just the way you want him to. You will gently
convince him to see your point of view. You will tenderly persuade him to go
where you want to go. In addition, subtly persuade him to see things your way.
You automatically become beautiful when you activate your
sensuality. You will also have a natural sex appeal. Having sensuality and a
healthy sex appeal will let you feel good about yourself, radiate a positive
and confident attractiveness, and know just how to get people to take notice
and listen. Women who are sensual to most people are those who believe in
themselves and have a positive attitude. They portray self-confidence. They
articulate with style. They have a definite poise and hold their heads up high
with dignity. They treat others with respect, are interesting, exciting and fun
to be with. Their whole demeanour is pure, clean, classy, and respectful.
It is all about how you feel about yourself deep within.
When you feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you. It is as simple
as that! Always keep in mind that what is sensual to some people may not
necessarily be sensual to others. Always remember that true sensual women are
soft and gentle, alluring and exciting, creative, sincere and responsive. It
has everything to do with how you feel, think, and act. You too can be the
sensual woman you want to be by being soft and gentle, confident and dignified,
humorous and smart. All you have to do is make the decision. So go on, give it
a try for a day and you will be astounded as to how people will respond to you
more positively. Just create the atmosphere and the mood, and you will find
that it is not so difficult after all. However, be careful not to allow your
sensuality to become an obsession or a passion and then use it to manipulate
and destroy others and yourself in the process.
You are woman, you are a sensual being!
