Everyone must
allow himself or herself to feel and be angry. Never suppress anger. Suppressed anger can lead to
pathological expressions, or the anger can turn inward, causing sickness or
depression. Learn to identify and express your feelings sooner rather than
later.
Know yourself and what triggers anger in you. From
there, set yourself boundaries and manage your anger within those boundaries.
Know when to stop.
Work out
deep wounds that may come from the past, and what other emotions are tied in,
and why. We cannot change the past, but we can change how we feel about it.
With anger also comes forgiveness. We must learn
to forgive. By doing so we will have extra energy that we can use more
productively, like loving someone. Forgiveness does not mean you
condone the behaviour that wounded you, it means let bygones be bygones. Make a
list of people you are angry at. Decide on a positive course of action now.
Learn
relaxation through meditation, prayer, or visualisation.
Change the
way you think. You will be overly dramatic when angry. Allow yourself time to
let your rational self-take over. Logic defeats anger.
Remember
that everyone who is engaged in hate is hurting deeply; and as you give, you
will receive.
Lastly, but not the least, learn to count
to 10!
