Let us talk about happiness and love

Sometimes you wonder what it is that makes you feel so good. Believe it or not but one of the things that makes a person feeling good, is making someone else happy – doing something that brings a smile or a shout of pleasure to someone else’s lips.

There was the little girl who had been sitting listening to the conversations of the mother’s bridge club and after they were gone, said to her mother, “Mother let us now talk happy”!

Did you ever realize how much of your conversation – and your thinking – is taken up with harrowing tales about your annoyances, your relatives’ annoyances and tragedies, and all the annoyances that go with living with an average husband or wife, or having in a  cleaning woman, or going to work, or doing your shopping, or what not?

Many persons get themselves more and more neurotic by constantly indulging in what is often called “post –mortems”; long detailed descriptions, many times retold, of unpleasantness,  family rows, and sorrows. How much better it would be for all of us if we would always “talk happy,” and so far as possible avoid unpleasant topics. What good does it do to keep constantly going back over the stories of unhappiness?

Drain your mind of the worries, the resentments, irritations, guilt reactions, and annoyances that have collected during the day just as thoroughly as you pull the stopper in the sink.

Then you can refill it with refreshing thoughts of emotional maturity such as these:

- You are going to free yourself from fears, anxieties, and tensions.

- You find greater satisfaction in giving than in receiving.

- You will contribute to the improvement of your home, your community, your nation, and your world.

- You seek give-and-take relationships to form. You profit from your mistakes and successes.

- You use your leisure time creatively.

Recognize hate for the destructive emotional force that it is. Love is the constructive psychological force of a positive mind. Love resurrects people who have lost life while they live. It is the force that gives new hope, joy, vitality, and invincibility. Those of you who truly want a powerful new lease on life will find it possible through love and a positive mind.

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5 Ways to Make a Connection

Being able to quickly establish a deep bond with a woman is an ability that most guys lack. Often guys speak in a logical manner, not listening to the woman and turning every conversation back to their one and only talking point: themselves! This makes it hard to make proper connections and the woman does not feel as though she has had a great conversation.

Here is what you need to do to overcome this:

1. Relate things to them, not just to you or your life

When somebody tells you that they have just had an interesting experience, like going to Thailand for example, it is a common mistake to instantly relate it back to yourself with your personal experiences of Thailand. Instead, try to imagine their experience, bringing out their memories and showing an interest in their unforgettable holiday. Don't immediately make yourself the subject of the conversation, first connect for a while allowing the woman to elaborate on her experience and then it is fine to relate it to yourself.

2. Use what they give you

When someone is talking to you they usually give you information about themselves: their feelings and their lives. These are perfect opportunities for foundations of connections. Often people ignore these and talk about themselves; instead, grasp every opportunity and connect on each point before moving on to the next.

3. Be Observant

Women have usually put a lot of effort into their appearance and often, to their dismay, this goes unnoticed. By picking up on something interesting in the way they're dressed or a particular aspect of their outfit (their bag might match their shoes, belt, earrings and dress), they will be impressed with how observant you are and be glad that their effort hasn't been overlooked. You can pick up on general aspects of their appearance or comment on jewellery and accessories which often have meaning or a story behind them.

4. Be empathetic

When someone has an interest, passion or particularly strong opinion on a subject, there are three main ways of connecting to it. The first is to simply say "me too" that shows you have common interests, the second is to disagree (but be sure to back up your views). The third and most effective response is to show that you can understand her passion, interest or view - even if you don't share it. For example, if someone likes cooking you can show that you understand why she might enjoy it without actually sharing her passion.

5. Talk about things that evoke feeling

Find something that they are passionate about - it could be anything from friends and family, to travel or even ballet. Connect with them on these subjects by showing that you understand why they have that particular passion. Don't simply gloss over them by saying "me too" and instantly changing the subject. Try to keep the conversation going and lead on to ask about her other interests.

Use these steps during conversation and you will quickly form a connection within hours, as opposed to weeks.