The most
important aspect is that you must allow yourself to feel and be angry.
Suppressed anger can lead to
pathological expressions, or the anger can turn inward on yourself, causing
sickness or depression. Learn to identify and express your feelings sooner
rather than later.
You must know yourself and what triggers anger in
you. Set yourself boundaries and manage your anger within those boundaries.
Know when to stop.
Work out
deep wounds that may come from the past, and what other emotions are tied in,
and why. We cannot change the past, but we can change how we feel about it.
With anger also comes forgiveness. We must learn
to forgive.by doing so we will have extra energy that we can use more
productively, like loving someone. Forgiveness does not mean you
condone the behaviour that wounded you, it means let bygones be bygones. Make a
list of people you are angry at. Decide on a positive course of action now.
Learn
relaxation through meditation, prayer or visualisation.
Change
the way you think. You will be overly dramatic when angry. Allow yourself time
to let your rational self take over. Logic defeats anger.
Remember
that everyone who is engaged in hate is hurting deeply; and as you give, you
will receive.
