10 Tips to Strengthen Your Self-Esteem

1. Have respect for yourself. Make a list of things about yourself you respect. Think about things you have achieved in your life and compliments people have given you. Keep going until the list is finished.

2. Have a purpose: State your goals. Visualize yourself achieving these goals and how it makes you feel. Determine a period to achieve each goal and the steps needed to achieve it.

3. Take care of your physical appearance. Put on make-up everyday whether you are going out or not. When you look good, you feel better. Pamper yourself with some of the treatments in this eBook to bring out your natural beauty. You will feel a new spring in your step and more confidence to take on daily tasks.

4. Do not avoid problems, solve them and do not dwell on them. Face them head on and get them out of the way as quickly as possible. Once you have solved your problems they are gone for good, put them completely out of your mind. You will feel a sense of accomplishment that will build your self-esteem more every time you do it.

5. Do volunteer work. Nothing will make you feel better than knowing you have helped others who are less fortunate. If you can make someone else, feel better about him or herself it will rub off on you and you will feel better about yourself too.

6. Give yourself positive, encouraging statements. Repeat them constantly and your mind will act on them. Work at feeling good about yourself and become more self-reliant. YOU are a capable person! Do not allow those inner voices to convince you otherwise.

7. Get rid of dependency, guilt, fear and worry and in their place cultivate self-reliance, love, imagination, enthusiasm, a sense of humor and the ability to communicate.

8. Don't allow anxiety, stress and depression to control you. You are better than that!

Believe in yourself and take control of your own feelings.

9. Build your confidence by picturing yourself accomplishing something you have always wanted to do. Close your eyes and see every detail of how you would behave, how you feel about achieving it and how others respond to it. Now put it into action and when you achieve it you will feel elated.

10. Keep a journal. Write down your feelings and thoughts about situations and determine how you could make them better by looking at them in a different way.

You will learn more about yourself and how you react to certain situations so you can stop and turn them around.

 

Self-confidence and You

Nobody can claim that he or she does not have self-confidence problems the one or the other time, whether pertaining to sex, dating, marriage, the way I look, or something else.

Generally, self-confidence issues are based on the unknown, because we really fear the unknown - when we have no idea how someone will react to the things we do, anxiety runs wild, and we are not calmed until it is over.

Know that others feel the same way. Whatever self-confidence issue might bother you, rest assured that someone else has experienced it before. Whether it is physical or psychological, other men and women have worried about the same things, which mean that you are by no means alone.

Give yourself a break. When you feel overwhelmed by any insecurity, take a step back, and evaluate the situation. Berating yourself for your lack of self-confidence will only serve to make you more anxious. Instead, come to terms with the issue and work through it.

Daniel 

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Self-confidence and a Good Body Posture

A woman’s self-confidence is evident by her posture. Your posture means the way you carry yourself. Your posture is also one of the main factors which contributes to the first impression another person may form of you. Making good first impressions can be very beneficial e.g. job interviews.

When you stand tall and proud, you portray an image of self-confidence. Your posture is the way you keep body aligned with its centre of gravity. A good posture is when you have control of your body’s alignment in relation to the centre of gravity. A person with poor posture can easily be spotted; they tend to slouch with drooping shoulders and head bowed.

It is easy to improve your posture. The important thing is to remember that having correct posture requires a conscious effort and dedication. 

Here are some tips on how to acquire and maintain correct posture:

Whilst at work

• Use an ergonomic chair that fits and support your back.

• Always sit with your back against the seat,  your knees at your hip level and  your shoulders should be parallel to your hips.

• Regularly, stand up and stretch or just walk briskly down the passage and back.

Whilst carrying a bag

• Do not overload your bag and regular clean it up of unnecessary items.

• If you are using a backpack, make sure that you put the heavier items close to your back, thus providing support for your back.

• The handles and straps of your bags and backpacks should be padded and wide. In addition, backpacks should have hip straps.

Everyday Living

• As far as possible, try to avoid shoes with high heels, as high heels can alter your centre of gravity, which could result in poor posture.

• Exercise regularly, which will help the body become stronger and develop much needed support for your back.

Whilst sleeping

• As far as possible, sleep on your back or on your side.

• If you prefer sleeping on your side, place a pillow between your legs.

• Avoid any over-sized pillows, as they can result in neck injury problems or pain.

To have a good posture requires daily effort and practise. However hard it may seem, it is worth it in the long term.

Exercise your eyes!