What is sensuality?

Look in the dictionary for a definition of sensuality, depending upon the version and maker, varying definitions exist. Ask any person to define sensuality, and still more interpretations. Sensuality in its truest form is not to be confused with SEX. Sensuality means to be aroused by things of beauty, luxury and refinement, to be aware of and explore the world, life and love with all the senses. To be sensual is to be aware of and appreciate the natural, ecstasy that can be found in the sensuous, passionate world of feeling, inhabited by poets, artists, song writers and dreamers. Being sensual brings to us a life felt through our senses, seen only in the world of spirit.

Living a sensuous life, your world is enhanced by awareness. Appreciation and acceptance for who and what you are. A passion for life and love. Sensuality is a world that virtually weaves itself in a rich tapestry of beauty, of intense arousal and passion where even the simplest touch of a finger drawn lightly across the bare skin of a lover’s back in the early morning hour causes the lover to awaken filled with a heightened awareness. In their heightened states, the colors of the world are painted in more radiant, vivid hues; eyes are deeper, skin is creamier as the sun filtering through the drapes dances off their bodies. An exquisite luxurious feeling. Joy. That exultation of spirit, pleasure, passion and delight is yours. Joy leads to ecstasy.

Keep ecstasy in our lives and lovers will go through their days filled with joy - that never ending supply of excitement of the spirit that brightens their lives and fills them with delight. Feeling and being are the sublime part of a man and brings warmth, gentleness, relatedness and perception to sensuality. It is the divine feminine nature existing in both a man and a woman. Feeling is the art of having a value structure and a sense of meaning and belonging. Feeling is the part that brings love to us. Romance in a relationship allows us to touch the soul of a lover. Romance and ecstasy mixed, allows us to touch the heart and soul.

What person doesn’t love Love? It is the essence of life. Love. Such a wonderful, essential part of our beings. Without it we would wither and die. Romance, ecstasy, passion and ultimately, love, are so powerful a human drive they have kindled wars, created works of art, consoled the dying, driven kings to insanity and bankrupted nations. Love is the most important aspect of our lives, yet we spend our lives searching for it when a simple act of vulnerability toward our feeling nature will cause it to spring forward, catching us like a bird in flight.

It is that vital, intrinsic, pulse-beating passion within us, our feeling natures, sensuality, that gives us creativity and a sense of joy. Through our feelings we experience our purpose and the special, ecstatic moments in our lives. It is through our feelings that our lives are given meaning and worth. It is our romancing one another in loving, ecstatic ways that helps us to discover that we are ALL sensual beings.

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Communication and Romantic Intimacy

Why do some people seem to get everything they want in the way of romantic intimacy, while others cannot get even what they need? Being sexually successful is not a matter of how you look, how old you are, or how much you earn. It is more about your attitude, manners, and social skills.

Here are 10 common sense tips on negotiating your way to great romantic intimacy.

1. First impressions count. Look and act your best. This is not the time to beat yourself up about your imperfections or to take out your frustrations with the world. This is the time to let a partner know that you are ready and able to have a fun time.

2. Pay attention. Take a few minutes to absorb some information about your potential partner. Get a sense of the kind of person she or he is – shy or aggressive, extroverted, or reserved? Then fine-tune your approach to him or her. People are not interchangeable; so do not treat everyone exactly the same way.

3. Be complimentary. Find something about the person that you like. Does he or she have nice hair or lovely eyes, a great figure or beautiful hands? Are they spiritual, intelligent, or funny? Learning to appreciate people’s qualities, and letting them know you do, is key to success in your romantic endeavours.

4. Leave the negativity at home. The kiss of death is when you bring tired old baggage into play. Romantic intimacy is about pleasure, fun, relaxation, healing, and connecting with another human being. Do not talk about your bad relationships or gas prices, bar fights or work frustrations. Focus on the good times you can have with this person, and not the bad times you have had with others.

5. Flirt. A whole book could be written on the subject, but suffice to say that flirting puts people in a good mood and warms them up sexually. Flirting includes can include paying compliments, making teasing comments or light-hearted jokes, and talking about fantasies or things you would like to do together. It does NOT include demeaning jokes, insults, or obscene language.

6. Ask for what you want. Asking does not guarantee you will get it, but it certainly improves your chances. Show or tell your lover what things excite you the most. If your partner needs some convincing, take baby steps towards your ultimate goal.

7. Control yourself. The difference between immature romantic intimacy and adult romantic intimacy is that adults learn to control their impulses. Unfortunately, way too many adults keep acting sex-crazed and immature long after it is acceptable or attractive. Sexual excitement is no excuse for trying to force someone to do things that make him or her uncomfortable. When your partner says "no" to something, accept the limit and gracefully and move on to something else. Rude or abusive behaviour are not appreciated or tolerated.

8. Don’t confuse fantasy with reality. You meet an incredibly desirable person and, in your mind, you just know you would have mind-blowing romantic intimacy together. You are lucky if you do. Do not ruin your chances with them by assuming that YOUR fantasy obligates THEM to fulfil it. Instead, feel them out – are they getting the same vibes? Does your idea turn them on as much as it does you? Talk it over before trying to talk them into it.

9. Set limits on both sides and stick to them. Communicate clearly about what you like and dislike, what words or fantasies are exciting and which ones are not. Remember that what is hot to one person could be like a cold shower to another. If your partner lets you know that he or she does not want to act out a particular, fantasy or engage in a particular act, do not try to force them into it. You can always find someone else who is more compatible with you and will be delighted to indulge you.

10. Be polite. Some of the sexiest words in any language are "Please," "thank you," and "you’re welcome." No matter how raunchy the situation, politeness shows that you respect your partners and value their company, and it makes you look classy. Your positive energy will make them trust you more and grow more open to trying new and exciting things with you.

Acknowledgement: KissMeGoodnight.com

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Beauty Tips for First Dates

Ah, first dates. They can be intimidating, exhilarating…even completely mortifying. To pump yourself up for the big event, spend a little extra time primping and planning. Pamper yourself with a bubble bath. Listen to some music. Indulge in a glass of wine to calm your nerves. Dates are meant to be fun for both parties, so lighten up, loosen up and let the preparation games begin!

If you’re fishing for some kissing, keep those lips glistening. Apply your favourite lip-gloss or Chap Stick as needed. Sparkles and added shine draw more attention to just how kissable your lips really are! Don’t skimp on the tasty lip treats…you may not be the only one enjoying them!

For the ultimate mysterious guise, accentuate your eyes. Many people consider the eyes to be the window to one’s soul. With a language all their own, eyes convey every emotion – joy, sorrow, uncertainty, nervousness, mischievousness, sarcasm and on down the line.

Let your eyes engage their own conversation with your date, thanks to a special flair and style stemming right back to your choice of mascara, eye shadow and eyeliner. Select shades that complement your skin tone as well as your wardrobe, and apply enough to be noticed, but not too much to be overwhelming. Lengthen and thicken your lashes with a bold mascara and swipe on a little eye shadow to bring some color into the equation. Use eyeliner to emphasize your eyes, bringing their intensity up just a bit.

Got a blemish? Fret not. Some concealer and pressed powder can save the day. Zits happen. We’ve all had them, and we’ll probably see many more of them in our days. Now, unless you’ve got the honker of all honkers, chances are you’re more than likely overreacting to the situation at hand. Have you ever noticed when a friend exclaims something like, “Oh my gosh, can you believe the size of this sucker?!” – sometimes you still can’t see the blemish, even after she points it out to you? It may be true that we are always more critical of ourselves, sometimes to the point of excess.

To help erase the unsightly mark on your face, try a drop of Visine to get the red out, or apply a solution containing benzoyl peroxide. Once the area dries, apply concealer to the affected area and blend it in as best you can. Now apply the pressed powder to your entire face, step back and examine the damage. Most times, this method clears up the spot enough that you’d have to be looking for the blemish in order to identify it.

Select a sexy fragrance and flaunt it. If scent truly is the strongest sense tied to memory, choice of fragrance can be an invaluable factor in your preparation for the big night. If you end up connecting with your date, you will probably want to instill a completely sensual and mind-blowing impression on him. Do this effortlessly with a perfume you love - and one he won’t be able to get enough of!

Pack a “beauty survival kit” and keep it with you, just in case. This kit should contain all emergency items and still fit safely out of sight, inside your purse. Consider including items like dental floss and/or toothpicks for stubborn broccoli, tissues, eye drops, aspirin (in case your date drives you bonkers), and toiletries in case of a surprise visit. If you are driving separately and meeting somewhere, you may wish to keep an extra pair of pantyhose in your car in case your skirt or dress gets a runner.

By Kathryn M. D’Imperio

To be a woman

1. Get to know your authentic self.

Discover the real you. Don’t blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role.

2. Own your power.

Accept full responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you’re the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you. Many women stressed the importance of taking responsibility for your own financial future instead of leaving it in the hands of a spouse.

3. Find your voice.

Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that’s their problem. Ask for what you want; you can’t expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated — not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don’t speak up for yourself, who will?

4. Find your tribe.

Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don’t like your current relationships, it’s up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships.

5. Practice self-care.

Avoid overwhelm by taking time to sharpen the saw. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone. You can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

6. Express your creative side.

Cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry, etc. Build a business. Be artistic. Put your ideas into physical form.

7. Embrace conscious sexuality.

You and you alone must decide the role sex will play in your life. There are no right or wrong answers. If you want it and enjoy it, let that be enough. Different women had widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally preferred, ranging from waiting until marriage to having guilt-free one-night stands. But the commonality was that they consciously decided and accepted what was right for them, regardless of how other people felt about it.

8. Be beautiful.

True beauty comes from the inside. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. Recognize that you’re a beautiful person on the inside, and you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside. You are beautiful.

9. Keep your heart open.

Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re stronger than you think. The rewards of love outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, not to live in fear.

10. Become wise.

You are highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust your intuition. Keep learning and growing. In the long run, your wisdom will become one of your greatest assets, both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others. (Many women placed a very high value on developing their wisdom.)

Happiness means longer life

A scientific review found evidence that people who feel positive about life, not stressed or pessimistic, have a tendency to live longer and experience better health than their unhappy peers.  But what if you're feeling down?

Get some exercise – this will boost your feel-good hormones; phone a friend – a kind voice at the other end of the line can sometimes make you feel a thousand times better; eat something – a sandwich might make you feel better instantly, especially if your blood sugar levels are low; bury yourself in a book – there's nothing like an interesting story to take your attention off your own troubles; get out into nature – a walk on the mountain is guaranteed to lift your spirits; take a nap or a bath – often you just need some rest to perk you up.

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Love vs. jealousy

Many women are flattered by lots of attention at the start of a relationship. But  no one likes feeling caged in and scrutinised in the long run. If your partner is being overly possessive and prescriptive, the hard truth might be that this has nothing to do with love, but everything with insecurity.

If your every move is watched and questioned, you are threatened with violence if you were to leave, you are constantly criticised, and you feel unable to relax and be yourself, it might be time for some serious action. This kind of situation cannot have a happy ending. And no, it doesn’t get better over time.

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10 minutes a day for life

Just slowly increasing activity by just 10 minutes a day adds up weekly.  It is enough to provide health benefits, and will enhance protection against illnesses such as heart disease and diabetes.

Preventing or delaying chronic disease means less doctors' bills and improves your quality of life in the here and now.  Most people know that exercise is important to maintain and improve health; however, sedentary lifestyles have become a major issue. 

Try recording your daily activity and including 10 minutes of dedicated walking each day, and get a family member, friend or colleague to join you.

Acknowledgement Health24.com